Fathers and Their Children

The relationship you establish with your parents and your inner child influences all areas of your life. Therefore, without healing the relationship with parents, we cannot achieve full openness in certain aspects. A child's energetic relationship with their father differs from that with their mother. The mother represents womb energies and openings, while the father represents the divine aspect. Humans need both for healthy development. When one caregiver tries to fill the space of the other or is forced to do so, multidimensional issues arise. In other words, we see that the idea of preferring a single healthy parent over an unhealthy family is not entirely valid.

Although perspectives have changed slightly today, from a classical standpoint, the father typically engages in child development later, around the language acquisition phase. However, in terms of energy, he is present from the very beginning.

So, what fundamental aspects does the relationship with the father influence?

• Your masculine and feminine energies

• Your inner child and all related issues

• Your identity, character, personality, ego, superego, persona, shadow, anima/animus aspects

• Your choice of partners and the relationships you experience

• Your relationship with authority and power

• Your sense of abundance and career aspects in life

• The right side of your body, as well as your career, profession, and perspective on the future

Children wounded by their father experience damage to their first three energy centers, particularly their sense of trust and self-worth. Their existential anxieties increase significantly, and they are compelled to develop various coping mechanisms or defense strategies to compensate. Some of these mechanisms may hinder progress in life, become burdens, or even lead to dangerous and tragic outcomes. However, with focused work, they can be transformed into functional aspects.

We either become what we reject or identify with in our father, or we take on the opposite traits. Alternatively, we experience this dynamic through our partners as a shadow and repair system, subconsciously attracting similar relationships.

In systemic constellations, the parent-child relationship is not one of equals in terms of giving and receiving balance. Therefore, parents are not "forgiven" in the conventional sense, nor are bonds cut—rather, they are honored. Any attempt to replicate an unequal parent-child relationship within an equal partnership (romantic relationships) causes instability.

The solution is to accept the father as much as possible, including what could not be received, and to honor him. It means unifying all aspects—positive and negative—in the heart, recognizing their contributions to our existence, feeling gratitude, and achieving liberation. This does not necessarily mean keeping close physical contact with your parents if needed—these are two different levels of interaction.

How does your inner child feel about your father, and how does this influence different areas of your life? Which of your father’s qualities—whether you see them as positive or negative—exist in you or your partner, and how do they impact you? How is your relationship with masculine energy? You may take time to reflect on these aspects.

Meeting with your father and engaging in an energy healing session or meditation with Reiki should definitely be among your priorities.

Whether your parents are alive or not, their physical presence or absence is not what truly matters—what matters is the energy you carry regarding this subject!

Dear fathers, you are the sun—the energy of life, continuity, vitality, and hope. You provide warmth, light, sustenance, security, enthusiasm, support, structure, order, form, resilience, and protection. Please make sure you are providing this energy to yourself, your children, and their mothers.

Dear mothers, no matter what happens, please do your best not to negatively impact a child's relationship with their father in any way.

Every child and parent—through their presence or absence, the reflections they cast upon us, and the burdens they carry—have been chosen as the most perfect, necessary, and complete ones for us. We only need to open our hearts to see this truth.

On this occasion, I wish a Happy Father’s Day to all fathers, to those with a fatherly soul, to those who have taken on a fatherly role for any living being, and to those who have raised themselves like a father.