END OF A RELATIONSHIP

Life is made up of endings, beginnings, and everything in between. While some of us handle these transitions with more grace, others may scatter, hold on, or forget. When any type of relationship ends, surviving is one thing, but flourishing is something entirely different. Relationships begin and end, but love is eternal. We don’t always need to be connected to those we love at the level we might assume. A relationship requires different qualities and a certain resonance, and when it ends, it opens what needs to be opened with love and respect; if it dissolves, it is successful. What makes this mostly happen is grace, perspective, and working on your own self alongside the relationship.

When something we value ends, here are a few small but effective pieces of advice to move forward in the most lasting, swift, and radiant way:

Assess the situation from all 4 dimensions and create a plan/roadmap for yourself as soon as possible. If necessary, don’t hesitate to seek support from trusted sources. Whether it’s from the physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual realm, this is likely a period where you’ll step out of your usual routine and into the relatively unknown. So, from the very beginning…
Make sure you’ve put a clear, honest, and definitive end to it and be absolutely sure of what ended, why, and how, without any uncertainty or reversal.
Remember the core.
Build and bless your future.
Trust yourself and everything that has brought you to this point, and be grateful.
Give yourself and everything time and space, be compassionate, slow down, and make sure you're meeting your priorities and true needs during this period.
Ensure that you are providing the minimum routine that all your bodies need during this period. Support and renew yourself physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually. While this might be hard at times, stick to a simple yet consistent plan with small steps.
Focus on the 7 energy centers and strengthen those that need to be reinforced during this period. Let go of what needs to be released, give extra care, energy, and effort to this process—it will open your path, shorten it, and turn what is attributed to a crisis into an opportunity, preparing you in the best possible way for what comes next.

There is no fixed way to do all of this. It will shape itself according to your pace, body, needs, and fingerprint. What works for some may not work for others. Sometimes what feels good for the ego is different from what feels good for the soul. Quantity and quality are already two different things... If there’s one thing to remember:

Every end is a new beginning—the important thing is how it will feel, and you are the one who determines that. Write your story the way you want to feel. When you look back and go through it over time, ask yourself: Are you complete? Are you at peace with it?

May it all be easy, liberating, joyful, and magnificent, and may it lead you to yourself.

Ahu BİRLİK