DO YOU HAVE THE HEART FOR IT?

Does the fact that something happens every day change the reality that it is a miracle?

The sun rises every morning, lighting up the vast darkness... The wind, for example...

Imagine that the wind never blew until you were 30.

One day you open the window, and a gentle breeze blows on your face, smelling of the sea. You’d be shocked. You wouldn’t understand what’s happening, and you’d be scared. You might swear that an invisible force touched you, but you couldn’t prove it. What if you had seen your first dream at 30? Wouldn’t you have woken up with your tongue tied?

If your heart is open to living joyfully, you’ll find a way to see that life is full of miracles. “For the lobsters waiting to die in the ship’s kitchen, the sinking of the Titanic was a miracle.” You can never know when, where, or to whom a miracle will happen.

And God created wonderful souls. He added a little bit of everything into them. Compassion, kindness, mercy, a little bit of hate, a bit of envy, a pinch of jealousy, a bit of ambition, a little arrogance, and then sprinkled lust and desire over them. Which ones will you feed, multiply, and become a wonderful soul with? Will you become a soul of goodness and beauty, or one of arrogance, ambition, and jealousy? Yes, both are magnificent souls breathed into existence by the Creator. If I see flaws, damages, and weaknesses in you, it is because they exist within me as well. I know them. The only difference is that I either suppressed them deep inside or worked on them and removed them. In fact, if a person is willing to understand another, they will find a way to understand them. They won’t condemn, judge, or alienate them. We all have fears, and everyone has flaws. The thing you condemn will eventually happen to you. It is another way life says to you, “What’s wrong with you? Wait a second, I think you can do this better than that person.” We are the magnificent, flawed souls of this fair and perfect system. We all just need a little tolerance.

As William Shakespeare wrote in his A Midsummer Night’s Dream, were relationships really this complicated? If we found the magical flower in the forest and dripped its juice into the eyes of the one we desire, would we be happy with them forever, or would things get more complicated? After the summer nights, wouldn’t harsh winter nights come? Are feelings truly as changeable as the weather, or do they last forever? If we erased the pain of love, what would remain of its flirtations? Would the pain of separation or the failed relationship protect you from the dark forces of the forest, or was it a test to see if you could gracefully let go of things that weren’t in your fate? Did unhealthy concepts like love bombing, gaslighting, or ghosting exist in Shakespeare’s time? Was it really that difficult for people to form healthy relationships? ... No, it wasn’t. In fact, if a person is willing to get along, they will find a way to do so. Everything is this simple. A friend of mine’s psychologist once asked her what the source of her life was. After listing many things, she concluded it was love. If the source of life is love, if you feed from love, you will get along. You will form healthy relationships and heal everything with love. As my dear Little Prince said, “Don’t you think the love that nurtures a flower changes a person?”

Much love...

Şebnem HOŞER